Eeeeek, it’s scary to say this but my teenage years are almost at an end. I used to think that 20 sounded so old; that it was an age where you should have your life together, know what you want and where you want to be. But, now that I’m here, I have learned that it is just a new chapter of your life: one where you begin to really mature, you learn what actually matters in life and all of those trivial problems that you used to think meant everything were just a drop in the ocean.
If there’s anything important I’ve learned on my run up to 20, it’s what’s listed below…
- You aren’t going to have the same friends that you did when you were six. And that’s ok. People grow apart; we change and develop as we get older, we follow our own paths and not everyone goes in the same direction. You’ll meet new friends – the world’s population is over seven billion, don’t stress about it.
- Stop talking about people behind their back. It will not make you cooler. Everyone is fighting a battle that you know nothing about. So, stop bullying and take a second to think about how much it would hurt you to know that others were talking negatively about you. As my mum said, if you don’t have anything nice to say then say nothing at all.
- Be kind. It goes a long way. If you’re kind, others will be kind to you. Karma.
- Making a mistake is not the end of the world. Without making mistakes, we wouldn’t learn from them and become better people as a consequence.
- Don’t follow the same, boring routine day in and day out if you don’t like it. Mix it up, change it about and do what you want to do. You get one life so why spend the entire time just working, eating and sleeping? Go to that place you want to go, plan that trip you’ve thought about for years, take on that adventure that you’ve been too scared to. Just LIVE.
- You’re allowed to quit a job you hate. There’s hundreds more, give it a go.
- TRAVEL, TRAVEL, TRAVEL. It’s the best form of education. Why stay in one place when there’s a whole world out there to explore?
- Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. If you really want something, chase after it until you get it. Work hard for it. You can do it when you try hard enough.
- Crying doesn’t make you weak. It only makes you stronger as you feel able to express your emotions and open up. In fact, not crying when you really want/need to will make you weak.
- Heartbreak is a universal feeling – with relationships, death or just sheer devastation over something. You’re not alone and it will get better in time.
- Trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, abort mission.
- You’re allowed to feel lost at this age! You have a long time to find out what you want to do and where you want to be. It’s hard to decide what you want to do for the rest of your life when you’ve barely even lived yet.
- Don’t let people who treat you badly back into your life just for comfort. Cut them out and surround yourself with people who make you happy and who deserve your company.
- Failing a test is ok!!! They don’t mean anything in the real world. As long as you have your health, family and friends. Moreover, failing a test may just give you that much needed motivation to work harder for the next one.
- Tell the people you love that you love them. Don’t take them for granted. Who knows what might happen tomorrow?
- Know your worth. You are uniquely amazing; there’s no one quite like you. Never underestimate or doubt yourself.
- Accept your imperfections. They are what make you YOU. How often do you walk along the street and see one of the international supermodels that you always see on TV? Exactly, hardly ever or never at all. They are a small minority in a world of diversity. Everyone comes with their own shapes, sizes, colours, feelings, looks – embrace yours.
- How you see yourself is so important. If you feel confident with yourself, the world will be a better place.
- Don’t hide from your problems. Face them and deal with them, get them out of the way as soon as you can to focus on better things. Ask for help, it is ok to ask!
- Not everything always goes to plan. But that is fine! Things happen for a reason. Embrace the changes and appreciate the new route your life is taking; explore the journey with your eyes wide open.
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